Emotional wellness epidemic in the times we live in

We are living in a generation or times where we have lost the essence of authenticity and being vulnerable. Where being emotionally avoidant feels much more secure than being emotionally present.

We avoid emotions when we want to have the upper hand, appear guarded or in some cases we play games to seek revenge. We build walls around us because we dont want to get hurt again but rather end up building and focusing on temporary connections. Temporary connections that may or may not give us a sense of happiness in the long run. And then we complain as to why are we unhappy.

We prefer being stoic and have forgotten the importance of being passionate , forgotten to relish the moment and someone's presence, forgotten to come off our high horses especially when deep down inside we know the other person means no harm.

And here I dont only mean romantic relationships necessarily.

Romantically, thanks to social media and the swipe right/left times - the illusion of options, taking minimal attention from people to feel seen, the 'grass is greener' on the other side syndrome or that I will show my strength

often puts a dent on our existing relationships. This in turn affects our emotional health, mental , financial health and for some it affects them physically too. The right balance of an EQ is perhaps equally important than having an high IQ and a good BMI.

We have forgotten to tell people we love them, have honest conversations with them , work on issues together (unless there is a deal breaker) and most importantly operate from our hearts.

There is the right notion of setting boundaries as well, especially in cases of absolute emotional , physical and mental abuse. In such situations, there is a need of distance and peace. But for the rest of us, in building those boundaries have we built those walls up so high that it results in being lonely and unhappy ? If we continue to push away people and drop them at the slightest chance of a disagreement or a possible unlikeable trait , then how will any relationship survive ?

Now I am a little old school and I believe in the beauty of connections so I feel this is the beginning of an emotional avoidant epidemic.

Ending this blog with one of my current favorite quotes by Toshikazu Kawaguchi and his 'Before the' book series that reminisces about how people let go off others , only to regret when they dont exist anymore.

The quote says

Dont Leave anything for later.

Later, the coffee gets cold

Later, you lose interest

Later, the day turns into night

Later, people grow up

Later, people grow old

Later, life goes by.

Later, you regret not doing something..

When you had the chance.

Namaste 🪷